Philip Be'er

Behavioural Loops Counseling

I'd been in and out of individual and couple's therapy for twenty years without seeng much improvement. Then, in 2010, I took part in a retreat where I experienced twenty years of growth and healing in single week. Behavioural Loops Therapy (B-Loops Therapy) is an extension of what I experienced, in that week, and the years of personal healing and transformation that followed.

B-Loop Patterns - Dad, in the picture, is teaching his son how to interact with his world. Lessons that he's learning today will, generally, stay with him throughout life. Like how to respond when someone smiles at you, when is it appropriate to ask for what you want, and is it acceptable to be vulnerable, or to cry, in front of other males.

"There's no time to waste, let's get started right away"

philip be'er

so many options, why choose me ?

experience in the trenches

I know, from first-hand experience, what it means to heal wounds from anxiety, depression, addiction and trauma.

Unconditional Acceptance

There's no need to be afraid of showing me the worst sides of your personality. I specialise in unconditional loving and that'll transform your life.

no bullshit

My only  goal is to help and to support your personal process.

wisdom over Knowledge

Some people know a lot, others understand a lot. I lean more toward wisdom.

Meet on Zoom

Available to meet via Zoom, on the phone, or in Victoria, BC (Canada).


Everything you share is confidential (unless it could result in harm to another person or animal.)

Proven systems loved by thousands


Philip took me through parts of his B-Loops using negative belief systems that I hold about myself and others. It was like seeing myself as the other person ... as I unpacked how what I judge in others, sits inside of me too. Then further looking at the positive aspects of a particular "negative" trait and seeing how it has served me freed me to be more compassionate and accepting of myself, in fact it helped me shift a major piece around shame that I have been carrying for years now. It seems like such a simple process, but the impact is immense, I am so grateful that I got to experience the process in such a profound way.

- heidi


Looking at my darkness/shadow side and transforming how I view my "perceived" flaws was amazing. Taking a look ... at my insecurities as a parent and human in interpersonal relationships was transformed from guilt and isolation to strength and validation and........ Community...... I no longer question if I'm good enough. I know I am. I have truly released myself from the "behavioural loops" that held me back from moving forward and claiming the life I want.

- michele

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We'll schedule a brief initial conversation at no cost to discuss the mediation option and then schedule a more detailed intake conversation. Feel free to call 7 days a week - if I'm not available, I'll get back to you as soon as I get the opportunity.

Most of my work is done remotely using Zoom and I'm available to work in-person in the Victoria, BC region of Canada.

Bring your conflict and we'll discuss whether or not it's an area where I can support you.